Parenting the Difficult Child

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Just like Uncle Raymond! : What's a parent to do? Discover positive resemblances ; Research the family tree ; Respect emerging traits ; Seek counseling ; Practice unconditional love ; Rely on God's love -- The Child of Divorce : Take preventive measures : Forgive ; Gather information ; Look for the good ; Face personal faults and mistakes ; Point out strengths -- Reactions to Divorce : Aggressive ; Withdrawal, Premature parenting ; Escape is NOT the way -- She's Just Like Me : Inner resemblances can cause crises : Change is possible ; Review ; Confess ; Plan ; Act -- Replace the negatives with the positives -- The Lazy Child : Why? : Rebellion ; Parental protection ; Perfectionism ; Pushed to exel ; Lack of responsiblities -- Guidelines to avert laziness. The Child With the Big Mouth : Like mother, like daughter ; The Child with power -- Reasons for big mouths : They are usually high-energy children ; They live with one or both parents who model verbal abuse ; Children may get by with rudeness without consequences -- Coping methods : Gain cooperation of the high-energy child ; Recognize family habits ; Do not permit rudeness -- If You'd Only Spank that Child! : Risky behavior : Rowdy behavior ; Reactive behavior -- The Way to correction : Know yourself ; Never correct a child in the heart of your anger ; Know your child ; Use the least severe consequences that will teach the lesson -- The Worst of all corrective actions is none at all! The Manipulative Child : Darren's trickery ; The Ultimate threat ; The Sneaky manipulator ; Curbing manipulative behavior -- Be aware ; Search your values and habits ; Teach your child to be observant ; Be consistant -- That Silly Child! : Silliness to overcome stress ; How to alleviate silliness : Talk about it ; Teach healthy feelings -- The Deceitful Child : Deceit beyond childhood : A Widespread trend ; Healthy morals : some stages of moral development : Infancy ; Early childhood (Preschool) ; Late childhood ; Adolescence ; Adulthood. The Too Good Child : A Serious business ; Barriers to others ; Associated symptoms ; Invovement of the whole family ; Perfectionism to the extreme ; Scared into goodness ; Plan ahead ; Slightly out-of-balance goodness ; Love can make the difference -- The Violent Child : Permissiveness ; Acting out pain in violence ; Rebellious violence ; Neurological conditions ; Mental illnesses -- The Roots of violence : Seesawing emotions ; imbalances of life ; Treating permissiveness ; Treating violence in an acting out child ; Treating the violence of a rebellious child -- Preventing violence : Teach your child protection ; violence or love? Indifference : "I don't know" ; Repeated lectures ; A Happy-go-lucky air ; The Explanation -- The Solutions : Face it ; Decide to change ; Develop a definite plan ; Follow through ; Persist ; Approaches that work ; Doing it on his own ; Alternating ciritism with praise ; Learning from consequences -- Beyond power struggles -- Self-Pity : Comfort and catastrophes ; Demands for attention ; Whining -- Sex : Sexual acting out ; Longing for intimacy ; Peer pressure ; Influence of media ; Caring matters ; Young adults -- Rebellion : The Key : Persistence ; Independence beyond safe bounds ; On the street ; Getting his way -- Understanding rebellion : Who's right? ; No other way out ; Too much of a good thing -- Coping with rebellion. How to Ease the Difficulty : Unconditional acceptance -- Seeing the good : High activity level ; Highly distractible ; High-intensity level ; Highly unpredictable ; Negative persistence ; Low sensory threshold ; Initial withdrawal ; Poor adaptability ; Negative mood -- Approval -- Polishing diamonds -- Forgiveness and reconciliation : Acknowledge your pain ; Discover why she inflicted pain ; Choose to allow the information to become understanding ; Let it go. Faith in Power Beyond Your Own : Is the rod really necesary? ; Relying on God's resources ; The Decision to love ; In touch with God ; Choose not to go it alone -- I've Failed! Is There Hope? : What are the answers? ; Your child's role ; Evaluate yourself ; Don't become permissive ; Don't become abusive : A Cycle stopped ; The Difficult parent.